It may not be your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Many people view responsibility as fault. "Who's to blame for this?" But finding blame and fault only keeps you stuck and powerless. 

Some things may or may not have been your fault. You can't rewrite the past, but you can begin writing your future, but only if you take responsibility from here. 

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All right. 3, 2, 1. Let's get it. Welcome to another episode of What's Your Problem, the podcast. I am your host, Marsh Buice If we have not met, and today I wanna bring you a throwback episode, there are many new listeners that we have attracted over the years. We've been doing this since 2017, and so I wanna bring an episode back. And I titled this, it may not be your fault, but it is your responsibility, so check it out. When's the last time you took responsibility over every single thing that's happened in your life? Responsibility. That's a heavy word, and it's also a word that's misunderstood. See, most of us hear responsibility and we instantly think, fault. Who messed this up? Who can I blame? But responsibility and fault are not the same thing. It's not your fault. Your parents got divorced. It's not your fault. Your dad went to jail. It's not your fault that your brother passed away. It is not your fault that the company pushed you into an early retirement, totally sold you out. You gave them everything, and in a moment's notice, you gotta go. It's not your fault that someone you deeply trusted, you confided in, sold you out, back stabbed you profited off your vulnerability or your ideas. it's not your fault, but it is your responsibility to deal with it, to decide how you handle it. Because a lot of us, we don't handle it. We hold it, we carry it around like it's still happening, like it still defines us. But when you truly handle something, you process it. You take what you need, the wisdom, the warning, the wake up call, and you discard the rest. That's ownership. That's how you create movement in your life because the moment that you take responsibility, you stop waiting. You're no longer blaming you. Stop hoping someone else will make it better. You own it, all of it. Even the parts you didn't ask for. Even the chapters that you didn't write and know you don't have to like it. You don't have to pretend that it's fair. But you do have to own what comes next because until you do, nothing really changes. You stay stuck in the waiting room of your own life. I've been there feeling bitter, playing the why me victim game, waiting for some sort of justice or explanation or rub on the back, some sort of consolation. But the truth is that energy is better used on what I can do, on what I can control, and that always starts. With responsibility. It's not your fault, but it is your fight now, and here's the thing, responsibility doesn't give you pressure. It creates power. It takes you outta this passenger seat and put your hands back on the wheel. So ask yourself, what am I still blaming others for that I haven't yet handled? What am I holding on to that I should instead be processing? That's the handling part, so that way I can move forward. What's the one move? Just one. What's the one move I can make today that I can fully own? Because that's where your breakthrough starts. Not in being right, not in being vindicated, not in rewriting the past. But in owning your part of the future, it's not your fault, but it is your responsibility. Keep it simple. Keep it moving. Never settle. Stay tough. Peace.