650. Stressful will kill you. Less-stress will free you. | 4 ways to use stress to your advantage.

Stress is needed in your life. Without it, you'd never grow to have more, do more, & be more. You get into trouble when you layer stress on top of stress to the point where you can no longer shoulder the burdens.

Today I'll show you how to put stress in its place and make it work for you.

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Today's inspiration came from Scott O'Neil's book, "Be Where Your Feet Are."

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And you want to have less stress in your life, stick around. I'm going, gonna show you how This is the sales life. I'm your hostMarsh Buice and this is not a sales podcast, but it is a selling podcast. See, sales is life and life is sales. And everything that you've achieved in life is because you sold your way there and everything that you haven't accomplished in life. It's because you settled and you stop selling. Selling requires five skills that you already have access to. You just don't ignite them. And that's communication, curiosity, creativity, continuous learning. And it also means that you got to confront some things, but productively. I'll take the 24 years of sales experience and show you how you can apply these to every area of your life. So if you're tired of settling then you better get the selling. Welcome to the sales life. I'm so happy that you are here. If this is your first time here, consider hitting the subscribe button, both on the podcast and also the YouTube channel. And if you've been here a time or 10 welcome back, . But don't keep the sales life to yourself. Help show your support and grow the show by sharing it with others, whether it be snippets, clips, links, individually, text messages, Or just putting it on social media and tag me in it. So that way I can also share the love with you. All right. So let's get on with today's episode as promised you want to have less stress in your life, right? And I didn't say that you're going to be stress-free because stress is actually important in your life. It's meant to strengthen you, but it ain't meant to shrink you in many times, the problems that we encounter in our lives, we layer one on top of the other until they become burdens and the burdens become so heavy in our lives. That we can no longer shoulder. The Boulder of problems in a ways is down and we no longer move. You got to think of your life a lot, like a cement truck. My son drives one and you know that tumbler in the back, as long as it's loaded with, cement that thing always spins because the minute it stops, it's going to harden. And then you've got a real problem. And many times that's what happens in our own lives because we layer problem on top of problems. Then we stop moving as much moving, mentally, moving, physically, everything hardens and we look at the worst in every situation and every person. And I, I really believe that a lot of the stress that you have in your life is self-induced because you don't classify the stress properly. And so you walk around and you assume certain things in a negative way. So because of certain situations that are going on in your life, you assume the cashier across from you is prejudice. Because you've been passed over for promotion. Many times, you assume that the boss has it out for you or from a wider scope. You assume that you'll never get a house on your own. You assume that you'll never lose weight, that you'll never get out of debt that you'll never be able to get yourself healthy enough to no longer have diabetes. You assume that you'll never get the right person in your life. And if you think about all the times that you step out the door and go into all sorts of situations, With negative intentions. And it's no wonder that you keep getting negative it's because that is the lens that you're looking through. And instead of looking through a tinted lens, you look at everything through a tainted lens, see a tainted lens means that everything is bad, So it's no wonder that you keep getting the negative results. Everything that you do is confirming that, but if you looked at everything through a tinted lens think of your sunglasses. You put on sunglasses to knock out some of the glare. So that way you can see what's in front of you, same thing. The reason why you're stressed out is because you got no margin, you got no space. And so you're stressed and you're maxed out. And so it's so much easier to just take this to this and connect those two and say it's bad what if you treated every situation, whether it be a person or an encounter or circumstance individually with fresh eyes, it's kinda like that movie 51st dates, I think with Adam Sandler. The woman he was dating, he had to re-introduce himself every single morning. Every day, they got closer and closer and closer. And then the next day. He had a start all over again. What if you looked at those kinds of situations and it's not that every situation's going to be good, the ball is not always going to bounce your way, but you look for the good in every situation and it's got to fall in one of the four categories. It's an opportunity for you to learn, to grow, to understand or to share. And when I say share, I mean, bring value, not your point of view. So what if even in tough situations you could create the space and say, in this situation, can I learn from this? Is this an opportunity for me to grow. Is this a situation where I can understand not only for myself, but understand the other person's point of view, or is it an opportunity for me to share and bring maybe one of my circumstances where I'm vulnerable. And I share that to let that person know, you know what, you're not alone. Or even have that empathy that, that cashier could be having just a tough time in her life. Wouldn't that be different? Think about how lighter you could step out every single day, knowing that they're all fresh new. Opportunities. So what if you treated every situation as positive? Not Pollyanna Pollyanna means I don't see any of the problems. Oh, it's all good. You're lying to yourself. That's Pollyanna, but positive means that I try to find the good in the situation. Can I learn? Can I grow? Can I understand? Can I share one of those? Is that any of that where I could zoom out, create the space and say, this is one of those opportunities that I can learn, grow, understand, share. And if it's not, I'll leave it right where it stands. I don't carry it over. I don't layer it isn't that different?. Think about how you could. Change everything in your life Because you created the space to change. It's different, man. Just think about that for a second. And in those situations, They're connections, they're dots. And some days it means that it's a dot that I can connect to from previous days to learn, to grow, to understand, to share. Maybe I don't, maybe I don't get it right then and there, but as those dots get placed every single day. And as I look at every situation, Independently of one another, even if it's similar, even if it's the same person are treated is brand new How much more beneficial and beautiful and colorful will your life be. And I'm not saying this is going to be easy. It's work for me and for you. And some days there may not be a dot there, maybe that.is way off in the future. Maybe it's a day for me to just put my dot up there. I don't know where it leads. I don't know what it does, but I do my part. This is what I learned. This is how I can grow. This is an understanding that I never seen it like this before, but I put my ego aside and now I'm getting some understanding. Well, maybe it's something that I can share if not now, maybe later, because maybe there's a bigger picture at play here. Maybe I don't have the full story yet. Maybe it's not for me anyway. Maybe it's for them. And I'm a key player in their life. I got the idea for this message from author Scott O'Neil. And he wrote be where your feet are and it's about creating bandwidth and your life., I remember when streaming really became big and at the dealership because we had little bandwith when the technicians were streaming radio, I Pandora and stuff, YouTube, it pulled so hard on the bandwidth that it slowed the production down. And so we had to create more bandwidth. So that way everybody could get on and use it as needed. And creating space and margin in your life is creating that bandwidth. It gives you the ability to improve your performance and your connections to learn, to grow, to understand, to share. O'Neil writes, there's a level of misunderstanding in this world that we have to appreciate. And we also need to know that we won't always understand everyone or everything for that matter.. But we must always make room for them, even when it's different. And I'll tell you this man, the world is a very big place with a very big table in every situation and every person. has a space at that table. And it doesn't mean that we have to like every situation or everyone. It doesn't mean we have to break bread with every situation and every one, but it does mean that we leave room for, for them and for others. It's not about controlling everything. It's about finding the relevant pieces that apply to my life. And even though that person may not be like me, even though the situation is distasteful, leave room for. Because there are actually opportunities in disguise and it may not make sense now, but it will connect to a meaning later and sometimes space is needed. To get to the full story. Let me know how you progress is going. You can connect to me at marshbuice.com and there you'll find all the socials where I hang out as well as all the links for videos and podcast and in the bottom, right. Is a mic. And that's a special link from you to me, let me know what's going on in your life. Let me know how I can help. I'm no hair, but I'm all ears. And I'd love to hear from. If thisor any of the episodes of the sales life have brought any value, would you leave a rating and review? These are super important because there are millions of podcasts for people to choose from and your rating and your review, maybe the thing that makes them stop, subscribe to the sales life and change everything in their life. Thanks for being here today. Remember the greatest sale that you will ever make is the sell you on you because you're more than enough. Stay amazing. Stay in a sales life.